it's been (almost) officially 2 weeks since i came down bristol. honestly i didn't think too much what this meant to me then. now thinking back, i cannot find a satisfactory answer.

 

changes? i can't deny that there were changes made to my life, in fact almost in every aspect. i'm now a qualified trainer! well without practise  i did try to go out on those bar crawl days, but i'm only me. i don't believe in going out so that you can make friends sort of things for freshers... it may be true but sorry i'm only not a fan. you only get to meet your real friends when you are being you, when you feel comfortable where you are at. as with the majority of others, i do not care. a friend was telling me how hard she found the situation she was in when she had to compromise to ensure others were having fun so that she wouldn't lose them as 'friends'. miserable was the word describing that situation. i certainly wasn't 'been there done that', but, i said to her and to myself then, you are good and happy enough, you don't need that many 'friends'. if 'friends' can't make you smile, why not try to find someone who can?

 

this friend told me that people are being distant because they've already got their own circles of friends. they don't welcome outsiders. honestly speaking i do not understand this concept. first, if you can't be open about things what's the point even being here? being in uni? being in a different country? second, if you consider someone from our own country and who is a great person like my friend an outsider, i personally do not think this circle of friends is worth joining in. last but maybe not the least, i don't get it because i've never had my own circle.

 

i think my problem is that i enjoy being on my own too much. i've never ever thought about finding company in everything and anything i do or did. i'm more than happy keeping others company when people approach me, but i simply wouldn't seek company first. i make plans involving only myself, i change them when i have to but never make adjustments.

 

well the secret is: be open, smile and welcome changes. sincerity is not at all a bad thing. while many people told me it simply is not wise trusting people you don't know well (they've rightly pointed out that this is my biggest weakness), i still think it's sad people miss out without trying (could be the best excuse for me ever because people been there might know how hard it is to change lol).

 

 

i try not to become a perfectionist and in many ways i'm not. but i do have to keep my room in order which is quite weird considering it's only me most of the time who gets to see it, and it takes up some extra few mins in the morning before rushing to lectures. no but! haha i discovered it is my habbit writing buts after making statements which could be quite handy in essay writing thanks to Mr Shingleton! LOL

 

so many truth to realise but it's only helpful if one could realise one at a time. well... all goes back to the saying and the most comforting sentence: c'est la vie.